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Pavlova FAIL

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Do you know what a pavlova is? It’s Nick’s favorite dessert, and I attempted to make it for him a few months ago. This is what a pavlova should look like:

This is what mine looked like before it went into the oven:

This is what it looked like when it came out of the oven:

Pavlova FAIL. Instead of attempting it myself again, I’ve farmed out the work to my sister and mother. Both of their (non chocolate) pavlovas have turned out great. I’m still gun shy though – I don’t want to fail so hard again!

What’s been your biggest dessert (or cooking) FAIL?

Last Christmas

Monday, December 21st, 2009

Last Christmas was oh so very different than all other previous Holidays. I was engaged, and living in England and celebrating my very first Christmas away from home.

At US Christmas – we go to mass on Christmas eve. For UK Christmas we go to the bars. It’s the biggest bar night of the year.  I suppose because they don’t celebrate Thanksgiving, their bar night is around Christmas instead. The first bar we attended was called “The Firken”, which is a re purposed church.  So… I was in Church..but drinking snakebites… and not listening to a sermon.I tried very hard to have a “when in Rome”attitude because I really wanted to experience Nick’s traditions.

I was so committed to the “when in Rome” ‘tude that although I had planned on going to mass Christmas morning, we partied so hard that I slept too late to go. I was absolutely mortified.  After indulging in a full English (vegetarian) Breakfast I gamely tried to tame the unpleasant effects of last night’s “when in rome-ness”.  Because no matter how much you think you can keep up with the English when it comes to drinking – you can’t, so just get that now.

All in all, it was a similar holiday, if a little reorganized on Christmas day. For US Christmas we have immediate family presents in the morning, followed by a gathering of the full family for appetizers, then a full Christmas dinner. For UK Christmas we had immediate family presents int he morning, then everyone came over for Christmas Lunch (also called Dinner, confusing I know), everyone else took a walk (I took a nap) and then we had appetizers (called a buffet) for Dinner.

I tried to skype with my family for their morning present opening – but because I wasn’t there they tossed the tradition out all together! There were no Cinnabons, no small intimate family gathering to open presents – not even Christmas Eve mass! This year, I’m here and I intend to revive all traditions with my presence. I even plan on incorporating a few British style surprises to make Nick feel more at home.

Have you ever tried someone else’s Holiday on for size?

Keepin it legal

Sunday, November 29th, 2009

Usually, if you’re an international couple, and you’d like to stay together after you get married you have to file for an AOS.  This stands for “Adjustment of Status”, we need to adjust Mr.D’s status from fiance to spouse! But wait you say, “I thought you guys were married, I’ve seen the photos!” But for the US government a marriage certificate from a municipality just isn’t enough.

You’ve been with the D’orsays through the K1 Fiance Visa Process and I’m happy that the hive will be along with us as we continue attempting to stay together despite the governmental roadblocks.

First, we made another ginormo packet of personal info. As for what goes into the packet? That info can be found here. Mr.D realized that he needed his previous vaccination form transcribed by a civil surgeon on the the I-693 form to be included in this packet so he searched high and low to find a doctor who could do that. Prices ranged from $25 to $100! So be sure to shop around if you to do this, some doctors also told us that he needed another full medical exam.  In our case this was FALSE and in our opinion, the offices were either misinformed or attempting to make more money off us. Mr.D could have had his vaccines done at the doctor approved by the US government in London, but it would have cost even more money! So he had them done free on the NHS, only to find he had to pay for a doctor to transcribe the form here.

We sent off a wedding gift of $1,010 (*gasp…choke choke*) to the government (on 10/1) and waited. We received the usual “we got it” receipt (on 10/6) from the government and waited some more. We sent the package off in late September and on October 16th were sent a letter letting Mr.D know where and when to go for his biometrics (fingerprinting) appointment (rescheduled for 11/20). A week or two after we received that letter we received another letting us know our case had been sent to California (10/26).

Having our case in California means there is a slight chance that we get to skip the interview portion of the AOS and skip straight to the swim suit competition. Mr.D also applied for an EAD (authorization to be employed) and that should be coming soon. Here is a general timeline for the EAD from Visa Journey. Another approval you can file for is advanced parole, my understanding is that the advanced parole is supposed to be used if you have any specific travel dates that take you out of the country. We didn’t apply for this at the time, because we didn’t have any specific travel dates.

So where are we now? The D’orsays are waiting on our EAD to come. We don’t feel we have any hopes for knowing when our AOS will be complete as most people say it can take anywhere from months to years (fingers crossed for months!). So I try not to worry about it. Maybe we’ll do an interview, maybe we won’t. The process isn’t very transparent, and that part is amazingly frustrating. So the D’orsays just check out mail, take lots of photos together and wait.

Anyone else in the process?

D’orsay immigration posts

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and omigod this post you’re reading is post 9!!!

Ohhhh, so excited!

Thursday, June 18th, 2009

So, I go to other blogs, and I see people with little cutesy award squares – but I’ve never been tagged with one till now! What’s worse?  The lovely girl who tagged me had to notify me because I’ve been SO remiss on catching up with blogs since I’ve been back in the states.  No more I say!

It was super nice of her to tag me, so now I shall return the favor.  Eve said I had to name 6 of my favorite unimportant things.  When I thought about this, it was hard to delineate between what was important/unimportant – if it’s my favorite wouldn’t it be important? So I began with Junk Food, because while I have favorites I think Junk Food is pretty unimportant.

1. Favorite Fast Food Chain – Taco Bell

2. All time favorite fast food item – Cheesy Gordita Crunch with beans instead of beef

3. Favorite Doughnut – Boston Creme

4. Favorite McDonald’s menu item – egg ‘n cheese mcmuffin

5. Favorite Sub – Quiznos Veggie

6. Favorite UK Junk Food – Cadburysapricotandcrumblecrunchbaryorkshirepuddingstickytoffeepudding

(if i don’t put any spaces it counts as a singular item right?)

Okay…I failed, I tried to think of things other than fast food, but they all seemed important! Fave shoes, Fave airline (domestic and international), fave veterinarian?

Who shall I tag?

Kasia @ Good Finking

Emily @ Oh! Apostrophe

Cautionary Gril @ Cautionary Blog (her posts are password protected, but I think she’s a pretty tough cookie, or maybe a cookie who was crumbled but is reassembling herself and is amazing for not staying crumbled?)

Stephanie @ lustrous owl

3 anonymous awesome American ladies @ She’s not from yorkshire

Kristina @ So I was thinking…

Thanks ladies, for supplying me with thought provoking words!

Receiving the K1 Visa

Sunday, June 7th, 2009

I’ve never won the lottery, but I imagine the feeling is similar. I woke up early 2 days after I flew back to America, partly from jet-lag and partly from excitement.  Mr.D’s interview with the Embassy occurred only 2 short days after I left England. As you know, he (we) were approved!

I asked Mr. D to write up his account so that if you’re going through this process maybe this will help ease your fears and frustrations.  You can also find several personal accounts on VisaJourney.com under embassy reviews.

“My appointment was scheduled for 9.00am, but I was reliably informed by Miss D’orsay that there would be a queue, so I should get there early. I duly set my alarm for 6.00am, with a plan of getting to the embassy around 8.00am to scope out the situation. You may think 2 hours is a long time to get ready, but I had to  drop off my bags as, inconveniently, the embassy does not allow you to take backpacks/suitcases or any electronic devices (including mobile phones) into the building. Unfortunately, it was at the point I realised my first FAIL — I would no longer have a concept of time without my phone.

I arrived at the embassy, and there was a small queue, so I asked someone for the time. It was 8.15am, and I remember that my letter stated that I would not be allowed into the embassy more than 30 mins before my scheduled time. I decided to take my chances and joined the back of the queue.

On joining the queue, there was a notice saying I should have the following documents ready:

- Appointment Letter
- Photographs
- Form DS-156
- Receipt

I wasn’t exactly sure what the receipt was, but I gathered my documents and shifted up the line. Once I got to the front, the nice lady glanced at my appointment letter, asked me if I had a mobile phone with me, and then sent me off to the next checkpoint, where again I needed my appointment letter and also my passport. I produced the documents to the nice gentleman, who then instructed me to go to the next checkpoint. I was then beckoned to enter the perimeter security office where all my belongings were sent through an airport scanning device.

A short walk around the side of the building led me inside to the reception area. I showed the lady my appointment letter and in return she handed me a sticker, which has the number 5012 printed on it (it also has the time; it’s 8.23am). This was now my “number” and she instructed me to go into the waiting room and wait for my number to be called. In the waiting room there were lots of people (maybe a few hundred at least) and some large TV screens, with numbers flashing up on them (think Argos if you’re from the UK! {or the DMV if you’re American} ). Each time a number flashed up, it was accompanied by an automated voice over stating the ticket number and which desk to go to; there are 25 desks. This is where I realise my second FAIL — I’ve left my glasses in my luggage. I sat near the front and waited patiently, for my number to come up. I’d say that after about an hour (remember, I have no watch and there are no clocks in the waiting room) I get called to desk 14. I make my way around and I’m greeted by the officer, who is sitting behind a glass window, he asks for my passport and then goes off into the back to retrieve my file. Once he gets back with my file, he asks me to go to window 12 to pay the $131 processing fee. I do this and return with a receipt to give to the officer. He then asked me for the following documents:

- Birth Certificate
- Police Record
- Support Documents (I-134 etc.)
- Photographs x 2

He puts all these documents in the file and then asks me a few questions about how many times I’ve travelled to the US. He then asks me if I have any more documentation relating to the support from my fiancee’s mother (who is co-sponsoring). I don’t have anything else (I believe I’ve provided everything), so he decides to inform me that “he hopes the interviewing office doesn’t have a problem with this”.

He then instructs me to return to the waiting room and wait for my number to be called again. Now I’m really nervous, thanks. Another hour passes, my number flashed up and I make my way to desk 15. On my arrival the interviewing officer was speaking to her colleague — I was worried they were discussing my “missing” support documents!

The interviewing officer seems nice and I began to feel a little more relaxed. She then says that she needs Miss D’orsay to fill out the I-134 form, which they don’t have (and presumably my visa will not be issued). But I had given them that document (and I have a backup copy in my folder)! I tell her and she re-checks her file and it’s there! She tears up a blue sheet of paper and puts it in the bin — I think I’m back in business for my visa!! She then asks me a few questions:

- Where did you meet your fiancee?
- When did you start dating?
- When did you get engaged?
- Tell me about the proposal?
- What does your fiancee do for a living?
- What do you do for a living?
- Is that what you intend to do for work in the US?

All the questions are asked in an informal manner, and I take the time to answer and chat informally. I then had to raise my right hand and swear that all the information that I had submitted was accurate and true. And that was it, she told me that the visa had been approved!! The officer gave me a pink form to fill in and take to the courier desk where I had to pay my £14.20 for the visa to be sent back to me. I also took the opportunity to ask the courier desk what time it was — it was 11.15am, so I was in there almost 3 hours. And that was it, I was on my way… singing, dancing, running… as I needed to get back to Euston to retrieve my phone to call Miss D’orsay to tell her the good news!”

There ya have it, and a few days later he received his passport in the mail with the K1 inside! The US government approves of our relationship!

Bbbbback in the USA!

Sunday, June 7th, 2009

It’s true, I’m back on US soil!  It’s taken a bit of time for me to adjust to not on the time, but simply being back in America.  It’s easy to forget after while just how different the US and the UK can be.  For example, since being home I spent almost 2 hours grocery shopping just to fill a tiny basket (the store was so big!) and the other day I turned down the left side of a median in to a shopping plaza….way to go.

I also have some fantastic news to share with you (I mean, aside from the fact I can go to Bee Meetups now).

1. Mr.D had his interview at the London Embassy and currently has a K! visa in his passport! Woo Hooo!!!  He’ll be flying over on July 4th and we can legally stay together. Legally stay together for 90 days that is, because that’s how long Fiance Visas are good for, then we apply for the next step of immigration.  I’m having Mr.D write up his experience to share with you all since I flew home 2 days before his interview.

2. I LOST 30 pounds! Yes, 30 pounds. I searched the internet to give you a visual representation of 30 pounds, this fish? 30 pounds.  I LOST THAT FISH.

(source)

How did this happen? I read this book, and pretty much follow what it says.  I’ve also been spending time with Jillian, and I just asked Amazon to introduce me to her new friends. I basically eat way, way, WAY healthier than I used to.  Previously, you could have classified me as a cheese and breadatarian.  When I say “cheese and breadatarian” I mean, a block of cheese and a loaf of bread.  Now, I avoid cheese and eat a (once) daily serving of a whole grain.  I’ve learned that starchy foods really puff me up, not to mention that once I get the taste for bread I just want more (as in…the whole loaf).

Remember my motivations for losing weight? The wedding was an important factor, but what really got me off my tush was the thought of an audition upon my return to the US.  I flew in Monday evening, auditioned Wednesday and now am dancing with the company as an apprentice.  I’m dancing 3 hours 3-5 days a week – I’m sure those last 20 pounds will melt off now!

Now that I’m back on the same side fo the ocean to our wedding location it seems like it’s that time to get cracking on all the DIY projects I’ve been putting off.  Hello to bottle cutting, tissue paper pomanders, designing programs, place cards, etc.

Even though I miss Mr.D and England, it’s good to be back hive!

More Government Mail!

Thursday, May 14th, 2009

It’s my favorite kind of mail these days! After we received the letter saying the Embassy had our application we filled out the neccessary forms, went to London for a doctor and have been anxiously waiting for the all important interview date.

Coincidentally, Mr.D’s interview in London is 2 days after I leave the country.  Since I’m flying out of London on June 1st Mr.D will stay behind instead of heading home up north. Here’s hoping we can change his flight on the cheap!

If the interview is successfull he’ll receive his passport back with the visa inside a few days after his interview. The only slightly sour note on this otherwise sweet date? We have to pay $131 for the visa application.  This wouldn’t be so bad if I wasn’t already irritated with the government for dumping over $2,000 on top of our wedding budget. I guess the $131 is just a drop in the proverbial $2,000 immigration bucket.

Enough boohooing, it’s time to celebrate (and make copies of lots of forms)!!!

If You Miss It, Make It – Sweet Vegan Treats!

Thursday, April 30th, 2009

There’s a twist to this edition of “Miss It, Make It”, it’s sort of in reverse.  I know much of what I’ve posted has to do with things I miss in the US that are difficult to acquire in the US.  This time though, I wanted to figure out how to recreate one of my new favorite treats from the UK to eat in the US.

The naked bars are delicious! I’m not 100% sure I can or can’t get them in the US, but I attempted an at home version anyway.

I found the recipe here, after finding it on Food Gawker – after finding Food Gawker from That Wife.  Did you follow? Would you like a tip guys? It’s called READ THE RECIPE. Simple I know…However, I did not read the recipe the whole way through.  Instead of saving the cinnamon to roll these balls of deliciousness in I put all 4 tablespoons into the mix. Can you see the large layer of cinnamon?

They still taste delicious even though they’re a bit (okay, a lot) on the cinnamon-y side. From mound of chocolaty goop:

To neatly rolled balls of deliciousness.

OM NOM NOM.  Nutritional info available here, although it says they’re high in sugar Calorie Count forgets that it isn’t high in refined sugar. Woo hoo!

What should I call these? “Raw cinnamon truffles” and “balls of deliciousness” just isn’t cutting it for me…

If You Miss It, Make It – Sushi!

Wednesday, April 29th, 2009

I can’t think of a single place I’ve lived where I couldn’t find sushi…until now.  Lancaster (UK) has tons of great Indian restaurants, a few cute Italian places and several (unsurprisingly) English Pubs – but no sushi can be found.

So we bought our own sushi mat, I wrapped it in plastic wrap like The Pioneer Woman told me to and purchased the necessary ingredients.  In case you’re in the UK, you don’t necessarily need to hunt down the specialty shop (like I did) for your nori – Sainsburys carries nori! Go Figure.

For my first experience I tried to keep it simple and purchased “krab”, avocado, cucumber and sesame seeds. However, I used brown rice and it was wonderful! While on a work trip to Houston I went to dinner with my friend’s family and had fantastic sushi with brown rice, so I decided to use it for my at home version.

Then I placed the rice first, then the nori, then the fillings and rolled – following Pioneer Woman’s Instructions.  What did I learn from my sushi experience? “Rice inside” rolls are way easier (and prettier) for first time sushi makers.  The only down side being I couldn’t cover them with the toasted sesame seeds Nick likes.

My other tip, use a sharp, sharp knife.  We had a dull one (even though Nick re-sharpened it, it was still pretty dull) and we pretty much had to saw through the roll.  This loosens the integrity of your roll and shakes the rice off if it’s a “rice outside” roll.

You can see the difference between the “rice inside” vs “rice outside” ones…and why I angled the plate to try and show only the “pretty” ones.  They were all delicious though, and we enjoyed with a lovely view of the English countryside.  Next time though, I’ll be making miso soup and edamame (sans salt) to enjoy with them!

Have you ever tried making sushi? Can you find it near-by?

Huzzah! The Government Has Sent Us More Mail!

Thursday, April 23rd, 2009

The D’orsays have gone into a flurry of activity.  Mr.D is filling out forms in duplicate and I’m…blogging about it.

The cliff notes version of our journey so far – fill out I-129F forms, the G forms that accompany them and send these (along with $455) to the immigration folks, wait 6 months, receive a letter saying the petition (not the visa) is approved and is being sent to the State Dept., wait 4 weeks, wait on hold at international calling rates to find out your package was sent to the embassy in London the day prior, wait 2-3 weeks and receive a letter from the embassy directing you to two internet links. Set up medical appointment in London (£300 {approx $435} in travel for us to get to London and £180 {approx $260} for the medical appointment). Contact the police for a police certificate (pay £35 {approx $50}, get my tax returns notarized ($75 approx $110), find Mr.D’s birth certificate, passport photos (approx £15 {approx $21}), mail a letter and several forms in duplicate to the embassy, wait, wait, wait and receive an interview date.

Since I’m more efficient than the US government I’m going to give you the two links, though I’m sure if I had searched earlier I would have found them after awhile. This is the link which has the forms you need and this is the link to the medical appointment info (you have to click the link on the right for any real info). I had been tipped off about several of the forms we’d need from WB readers (thanks blightygirl!) and from Visa Journey.com.  Because of my fears of not making enough money to sponsor Mr.D my mother has graciously agreed to co-sponsor him to ensure that we’re actually able to be married.

What I wish we had done in retrospect? Applied a year out for the whole process, we thought the second half of the process would be much faster than the first part.  Boy were we wrong! We budgeted 6 months for the first step and 2 months for the part we’re in now.  We should have budgeted 4-5 months for all the paperwork and mail to go back and forth before the actual interview at the embassy takes place (when Mr.D would hopefully receive his visa). Since the K1 visa is good for 6 months we would have still had plenty of time to use it, AND Mr.D could fly back with me in June.

The way it’s currently looking is that I’ll have to fly back alone in June and Mr.D will have to wait a few months before he can join me.  Have I mentioned our wedding is in August? Yeah…. thankfully our wedding is at the end of August which should hopefully allow the government time to approve our upcoming nuptials.

We only budgeted $455 for the K1 visa and $1,100 for the Adjustment of Status part, it’s looking like we should have budgeted $2,000+ for the whole process (bye bye videographer…).

D’orsay Immigration 1

D’orsay Immigration 2

D’orsay Immigration 3

What are some surprise costs that you’ve faced in wedding planning?