The End of an Era
For the past month and half I can honestly say I’ve spent a fair amount of time wishing for all the planning to just be over, and for us to be married. Which in retrospect, is a complete shame. Yes, planning has been stressful but I won’t ever plan our wedding again so wouldn’t it be better to remain present and enjoy this stage of our lives?
I always see a fair amount of talk regarding “staying present” in the moment on the actual wedding day. I’m beginning to feel thought that it’s just as important to remain present for your planning. Here we are, in an in between stage of life, a stage filled with excitement, hope and promises and for almost 60 days I’ve just been wishing it were over.
Which isn’t to say because I wanted it “over” that I wanted our relationship to be over, it’s more the “OMG there is so much left to do!!!!!”. Which in reality is “I put too many crazy projects on my plate and should have finished them a month ago”. Yet, I still find myself adding more projects even though we’re coming into our final week.
Both my (and Mr.D’s) stress levels have reached an all time high and the other day in the car he turned to me and said the things I’d been thinking for quite awhile. “Is it bad to say I just want to be married and for this whole thing to be over and done with?”. So we agreed yesterday that although it was stressful, that we would really try to remain present in what we were doing and why it was important. To focus on this celebration of our union with our family and friends and not focus on how sick we are of cutting and sanding wine bottles (and our 7897345798 other tasks).
Have you found yourself wishing the planning process was over already?
August 24th, 2009 at 4:11 pm
Oh yes, there have been so many times (esp. in these last months before the wedding) that I’ve had mini meltdowns over all that still needs to be done. That is, until I remember that none of it *really* matters. We’ll be married on November 13 whether or not the out-of-town bags get made, or the programs printed or if I can’t manage to get my millionth DIY project completed! You’re so good to have come together about keeping things in perspective and not letting it stress you out. You’re dead right about these times being something you want to remember and cherish, not remembering because it was miserable! Even cutting and sanding wine bottles…you’ll laugh about it one day
August 26th, 2009 at 2:19 pm
I definitely was wishing it all done towards the end of our planning. I felt so unprepared for the wedding, even the day of, I always felt like I didn’t quite get it all done… In the end, if I could go back, I would have done stuff differently, what, I don’t know but I hated how it got to the end and we just wanted it over. I kind of felt like it left a bad taste in my mouth for the wedding feeling unprepared and run down like that!