Soulmates?
I recently joined a book club and the first book the group chose to read was The Time Traveler’s wife. The movie apparently has a different ending, but I’m sure the same points regard fate/determinism/chaos are likely still explored.
We were discussing the issue of if the two characters really had a choice in meeting and being together or was it all pre-determined by fate? Which then brought up real life relationships, did any of us believe in soulmates? Every single one of us answered no.
The more I thought about it, the more strange I thought my own answer was. Mr.D and I always joke that we were fated to meet, because it just seems SO unlikely that it could happen any other way. My friend Erin, asked if we hadn’t met in Austin did I think we would have met again? Which while possible, just seems so unlikely. I’d like to think, that had Mr.D and I not met; that we would each find other people who make us just as happy.
However, it’s hard for me to think that or assume the outcome of that situation since Mr.D is already a part of my reality. I cannot imagine anyone else I’d be as happy with. My other married friend piped up and said that she thought her husband was her soulmate. Which made me wonder, if you think your mate is your soulmate…do you believe in soulmates in general? What causes the mental divide between “I’ve met my soulmate and soulmates exist” and “I met my soulmate, but I don’t believe in soulmates”?
I don’t think I believe in soulmates, but I do think Mr.D and I were fated to meet. There are so many different ways our meeting could have happened and so many directions we could have taken once we’d met. So I’d like to think that “fate” (or whatever) throws opportunities our way and we have free will to captilize on those situations or not.
Do you believe in soulmates? Would you say yoru partner is your soulmate?
