So Conflicted!
I’m so silly. I do this type of thing all the time, you see. I pick one thing, then change my mind. I think of one extreme then switch to the other. I do it all the time, and the personality aspect comes out in all areas of my life – so of course my extremist nature would rear it’s head whilst wedding planning.
At first – I envisioned an ultra modern wedding, sleek lines, at a loft in the city, with a sheath dress (no lace), structured flowers, bold colors and a birdcage veil.
As planning has progressed I’ve seen myself gravitate towards traditional and classic and away from that ultra hip too cool for school wedding. That no lace sheath dress? Became the all lace dress. The structured flowers? Became the soft, feathery flowers. That hip city space? Became a country manor.
I’m sure you can see where this is going (if only I had!). While in those very first stages of wedding planning I was determine to have everything planned before I left for England. So I rushed and forged ahead,without fully thinking things through. I circled, dog eared and tabbed bridal magazines out of their little papered minds. The first thing I knew I wanted? A birdcage veil.
So I rushed again, I did a quick google search, found a woman whose veils looked nice and prices seemed reasonable compared to what I had seen in bridal stores (mistake). I hurried to purchase one, I explained to her exactly what I wanted and she made – exactly what I described. The only problem with what I described, what I wanted? I’m just not sure if it’s what I want now.
I’ve see so many pictures of gorgeous mantilla veils and think about just how lovely and bridal they are – blowing in the wind…the faint lace edging. It’s okay, I know you’re probably thinking by now, “Miss D’orsay – you’re crazy.” Mantilla vs. Birdcage veil…verrrrrrry different.
Not to mention that my dress is all lace, and matching the lace to veil could be complicated and honestly, it could be a lace overload. Most of the mantilla veils I see are photographed with non lace dresses.
I found this veil diagram via Mrs. Ladybug and woweezowee has it been helpful! After seeing so many “veil blowing in the wind” photos I see that I should be looking for a veil that is between 45″ to 54″ according to this diagram.
I’m not coveting a blusher or a drop veil, mostly because I don’t like the idea of things completely covering my face. I’m not considering ankle or chapel veils because walking is already dangerous enough. I really just want a windswept “swooshy” veil. Even the David’s Bridal model is rocking the swooshy veil in my dress!
I assume the best course of action is to wait until I’m back in the US and try on different veils with my actual dress on. So hive, do you suggest I hang onto the birdcage veil for the reception and acquire a longer veil? Should I ditch the birdcage veil and look for a whole new longer veil?
What are your favorite resources for veil shopping? Were you able to try on your veil and dress together before you purchased the veil?
May 12th, 2009 at 12:14 pm
I borrowed a veil because there were too many other things that were more important to me that I wanted to spend money on. Luckily I had a good friend get married a few months before me with a lovely simple veil that worked perfectly with my dress.